i’ve decided to stop giving memoirs a star rating, but i do have some thoughts on this one. i think it is generally well written and telling extremely important stories about topics that people are often too afraid to discuss. however, in my opinion, the phrasing of the content warnings downplayed the graphic nature of some of the discussions had in this book- specifically surrounding sexual assault. the way it was worded to me implied that there would be discussion of the topic and its effects, but not graphic depictions like there were. as a result i did have to skip portions of the book, and generally found myself on edge for the remainder of the read.

this isn’t to say that i think that chapter (chapter 11: boys will be boys) shouldn’t be in the book. i think it is an important part of the author's story, and is a conversation that more people need to be willing to have. i just wish that there was more care taken in the phrasing of the content warnings so that readers, myself included, would know what to expect and be able to protect our mental health.