Thanks to Doubleday Books for the free copy of this book.

 - I’m going to be honest, I’m torn about MORE: A MEMOIR OF OPEN MARRIAGE. On the one hand, I’m glad this book is out there, talking about alternative marriage and relationship structures, and how to think outside the norms we’ve been raised with. However, a lot of this book is practically a guide for how not to do nonmonogamy.
- Over half of this book is the author making a series of bad decisions and not really exploring why she wants to do this at all aside from her husband pushing it. Which, fine, I don’t expect someone to just jump perfectly into problem-free open marriage. But she does no research, no seeking out of poly spaces, people, or ideas (someone has to give her a copy of The Ethical Sl*t) and then she wonders why she’s repeatedly unhappy. Her husband is a jerk about a lot of it, too, I can’t even get into that here because he made me so mad.
- On the other hand, what a fabulous example of the benefits of therapy this book gives us!
- Also, I do feel bad being so judgy. This was her experience and she’s just relating it to us. I guess I’m glad this book exists - I feel like for mainstream publishers to put out books on this topic we have to get through the rich straight white people doing it badly memoirs first.